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Mother Load III | Live Coaching Session | #Perspectives podcast with Sharon Pearson

Updated: Sep 14, 2021

Six months ago, Sydney corporate recruiter Sasha Dumaresq bravely went public with a very private story: how behind closed doors she was struggling with the daily challenges of being a hands-on mum to three girls while smashing her career.

She agreed to be coached by me in what was a #Perspectives first, a live coaching session that saw Sasha—who started studying at The Coaching Institute in 2016 and is now a mindset and career transformation coach with her own businessadmit she had "no connection really to my emotions" when her three kids were younger.

Sasha's honesty and huge drive to change and understand her relationship with her firstborn, who is now nine, saw us reframe how Sasha was reacting to her daughter's clap backs against what she admits was "very controlling" parenting.

It resonated with Mother Load audiences to the tune of about 30K views. It also left me keen to find out what happened next with Sasha and her family, and if our strategies had helped banish her mother lode of guilt.

So in September, Sasha returned for another live coaching session in Mother Load II. Again, the episode worked two ways, with audiences hearing one woman's experience of what is a far too common affliction, while also seeing how a professional coaching session works.

Now—after nearly 70,000 people have followed her journey so far—the amazing, inspirational Sasha has stepped up again in Mother Load III for another coaching session.

And this time, it's all about her!

"What I've been chasing is if I just find out that next thing, maybe that yes, it will make everything fine," says Sasha.

Rather than exploring strategies and frameworks around parenting, this session is a deep dive into the being-ness of our humanity. The first two sessions were quite detailed around external things, and this one really went to what I believe is the heart of coaching, which is the inner journey where we coach to self.

If you're a coach, you'll see a lot of reframes in this coaching session. But what I think the heart of this session is really about, and the thing that lit me up, was what Sasha claimed back for herself or what was the gift that she was waiting to give herself.

As coaches, when we're in a session, the key is knowing how to be fully present beyond any judgment for the client. And I hope you see that in Mother Load III, giving generously of your presence to them means they can fill the space with their truth.

As always, Sasha is so easy to coach because she claims the truth in seconds. It was beautiful to be a part of and I think you'll get a lot of joy out of this. It's for anybody who would get value out of knowing how to reclaim humanity and stepping into being all of who we are as a human being.

The big question is, what does that mean day-to-day for Sasha?

As she told me, what she wanted from our third session was "to go a bit deeper and recover deletions, distortions and generalisations (DDGs)" because she's been looking back at her daughter’s early childhood and the memories are “tarnished with me just being a terrible parent.”

Sasha has asked friends and family for evidence of how she was and keeps coming back to “I was a shouty mum. I was, you know, I didn't nurture her enough. And all of these self judgements are still coming in.”