If you have been wondering how you can start achieving the goals that matter, this episode of #Perspectives is for you. We have done something a little different for this episode, taking you straight into a training room with Sharon Pearson and a group of wonderful life coaches to explore why and how we set aspirational goals and the one shift it really takes to achieve them.
KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS:
- 0.00 Why I don’t coach people on what they want first but secondary
Understanding that the goal we set and what we say we aspire to achieve isn’t our truth.
We set aspirational goals as a way to mask our current state.
We think we’re going to go for it consciously but unconsciously we have no intention of doing it. It’s a way of displacing our pain and shame of not living up to who we thought we’d be.
- 5.00 What I coach on now
I don’t coach on the goal someone wants to achieve; I coach on the truth of how they are hiding, who they’re not being, what they are missing about themselves.
I hope to recover who they’re meant to be and how they can grow and as they change their perception of themselves, they change their goal because their goal was a way of putting outside of ourselves if I get that then I’m okay.
What if we reverse it and coach people on how to be okay rather than how to achieve a goal to feel okay.
- 6.20 Reaching Goals isn’t about working harder it’s about changing your strategy
Start getting your mind working for you then ask yourself well now I know who I am and I love who I am what is it I’m really looking to create.
- 7.30 Ambition with meaning is misery
That’s why people keep pursuing the goal wondering if they’ll ever catch happiness and they never do because their strategy is wrong from the beginning.
- 7.58 Over Ambition and Under Ambition
Under Ambition is a sense of give-up-ness
When I coach someone and I see them flaking and being completely disconnected from even having a go, I’m seeing what I call give-up-ness